and the week since having been spent dealing with BS from an "entitled-feeling" girlfriend, her kids from an earlier relationship, and Facebook.... they have made total Azzez of themselves and in attempted defense of the family my son has been made out by them to be the azz.... but anyone within the family that has seen the BS, knows better...… but the girlfriend and her "posse" including a bar owner who had put together a benefit that was planned a couple months ago, trashing anyone that would stick up for the brother in law, mother in law or us.... we fear this "benefit" will be a sham, actually being a "beer and cigarette fund" for the girlfriend, rather than what it should be. I think it should be called off because the person who it was set up for, is no longer with us. but the girlfriend and this bar owner "friend" are insisting on it still happening...… some of you guys might have seen what I put on the other site which was starting to go in a direction I was hoping it wouldn't..... at one time I put "I'm done posting in this thread" but wound up deleting that line when I saw some of what had been added....Back to work today but the last 4 days have been spent between 2hospitals. I took my wife in for outpatient surgery on Friday, 2 miles from my house, and the next 3 at a hospital in Chicago 55 miles away, watching her brother die. He had a cancer called multiple myeloma. Discovered 2 years ago at stage 4. I can't get my mind back on track.